That won’t work for a nice hat. It’ll get destroyed easily by dirt or someone kicking or stepping on it accidentally. If there’s an open chair, I set it there, but if we’re a party of four at a four top, there’s not much of a choice.
Yeah, my nice is dark jeans, button down long sleeve and dress shoes. Blazer or leather jacket depending on the weather.
The only time I’ve worn a tie the last several years was as a pall bearer at a funeral. Even the job interviews I’ve gone to, HR has told me no tie, just suit jacket.
It would be fun to have that kind of party. Are you familiar with dapper days at Disneyland? I have some friends who are very into that. You go to Disneyland dressed up very nice, preferably vintage style. Here’s some examples