Former CH pikawicca shared this on FB this morning. A round of chuckles has ensued from Alan Barnes, Scargod and me.
And then,â she adds, the horror of it all still fresh in her voice, âhe wanted to have sex.â
The women in that piece are as awful as the men. They deserve each other.
That was my favorite part
@robert I have dang near every âtoyâ that any guy has so IMneverHO this isnât gender-specific
Itâs not having a lot of tools per se but the attitude toward them:
You are building something. Itâs like wood shop, you have tools and gadgets, itâs like a garage; and in the end thereâs a finished project.
The focus should be on pleasing the people youâre eating with, and yourself. The necessary craft is just a means to that end.
I donât entirely agree. I enjoy the process of cooking. I like learning about new ingredients and new procedures. Sometimes Iâm not thrilled with the end result (last nightâs jackfruit nachos are a prime example), but I usually have a good time in the kitchen regardless.
I read this as humorous and not factual. YMMV
I agree with all that, but when youâre cooking for someone else, thatâs the priority. Maybe your mate or family have to put up with being guinea pigs once in a while, but be considerate.
So youâre saying for the cook to be considerate?
If itâs fictional, the author has a tediously sexist imagination. Erma Bombeck was funny in her day, but that was a long, long time ago.
To me, it would be easy to remove the gender âthingâ entirely and itâs amusing. Thatâs kinda how I read it.
Oh, sure. If Iâm feeding other people, I stick to what I think theyâll like. (But to be honest, thatâs not only about pleasing them. Itâs also about wanting to them to think Iâm a decent cook.)
As to the article, I checked out at âintrinsically, classically male.â I do not believe anything is âintrinsically, classically male,â nor do I believe that "when women cook, (itâs) in terms of nurturing someone.â That gave me flashbacks to 80âs-era Elayne Boosler: Amirite, ladies? Amirite?
If the article had been about people across the gender spectrum who like to geek out in the kitchen, Iâd be smiling and nodding. As written, not so much.
I totally agree with you and would have done it as you describe. But I thought it was silly enough to enjoy.
This brings up another issue (not that Iâm implying you do this, your comment simply made me think of it).
On so many cooking websites women comment that they donât cook certain foods because âDHâ doesnât like it. No fish or beans or vegetables other than peas or potatoes, or whatever. This really bugs me. Why do they let their husbands decide whatâs for dinner every night?
Iâll jump on THIS bandwagon! And I hate âDH.â Iâm totally with you. Theyâre no longer toddlers. If they donât like something, then cook what they do like. (I mean THEY can cook what THEY like.) And for those who say âDH wonât eat leftovers,â my reply is that heâs going to get pretty darn hungry around here." Whew. Thanks. I feel better. lol.
I edited to make more sense.
Thatâs very foreign to me, but Medium Size H & I are unusual. We eat different things, and at different times. If I happen to be making something he likes, I make enough for both of us, but we cook for ourselves about 90% of the time.
Now thatâs interesting to me. Do you have different schedules or preferences for âdinner timeâ? Whatâs an example of something each of you doesnât prefer to eat? Bob and I are lucky. Even the things we donât like are the same: Brussel sprouts, cucumbers and cantaloupe!
He eats very few vegetables, and I donât eat any mammals or birds. And even when the food overlaps, the preparation sometimes does not. He likes his fish a lot more well-done than I do, for example. And both of us mostly work from home, so we donât feel the need to set aside meal-time as together-time. Weâre together almost all the time anyway.
Bob used to travel for business an enormous amount of the time. Now that weâre retired I donât mind alone meal time occasionally.
Thatâs us. We came home from a trip this morning and too lagged to go out and buy fresh food. We made do with what we had on hand.
I made a pot of chicken congee. She a spicy hot pot of stuff. She had some of my congee, I passed on her creation.
Just woke up at 3pm. About to go out and buy some pig tails. Making some pig tail and peanut soup for dinner tonight. We both love tail, will use big pot.